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Asking Eric: Family, friends don’t seem to appreciate time I put into tedious Christmas cookie tradition
Asking Eric: Family, friends don’t seem to appreciate time I put into tedious Christmas cookie tradition
Asking Eric: Family, friends don’t seem to appreciate time I put into tedious Christmas cookie tradition

Published on: 12/01/2025

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It takes the three of us several days to make, bake, decorate, package and mail cookies to family members around the country. Getty Images

Dear Eric: My late mother made a special Christmas cookie that required tedious decorating, considering each person’s personal preference for toppings, and giving them as gifts to family and friends. They always had a place of honor on our family Christmas table.

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