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Asking Eric: Readers share creative ‘We got divorced’ holiday card ideas
Asking Eric: Readers share creative ‘We got divorced’ holiday card ideas
Asking Eric: Readers share creative ‘We got divorced’ holiday card ideas

Published on: 12/10/2025

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Eric: Authenticity is really important here. Life can be difficult and confusing to navigate. Getty Images

Dear Readers: On November 9, I answered a letter from someone who was trying to find a way to acknowledge her impending divorce in her Christmas cards, which would contain a photo of the letter writer and her kids, sans soon-to-be amicable ex. I made a few suggestions and invited you to lend your wisdom. Here are a few great suggestions and one that made me laugh.

News Source : https://www.oregonlive.com/advice/2025/12/asking-eric-readers-share-creative-we-got-divorced-holiday-card-ideas.html

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